When Your Girlfriend is Upset: 5 Tips for Apologizing and Making Up
So your girlfriend is angry with you. Now what? Well, the first thing you’ll want to do is apologize. But just saying “I’m sorry” isn’t enough – you’ll need to show her you care too. Here are some tips for saying sorry properly and getting back in her good books.
1. Say you’re sorry clearly
Let her know up front that you realize you messed up. Look her in the eye and tell her you feel bad about whatever it is that made her upset. Use kind words so she believes you really mean it.
2. Explain what happened, but don’t make excuses
She’ll want to understand why you did what you did. Tell her the real reason, but don’t try to blame someone else or make it seem not as bad as it was. Own up to your mistake honestly.
3. Show you care about her feelings
An apology isn’t enough on its own. You need to let her know her feelings matter to you. Tell her how much you care about her and that you’ll be more careful not to upset her again in the future.
4. Promise to do better next time
Following up your apology by promising to learn from this is important. Reassure her specifically how you’ll avoid repeating the same error. She’ll feel more confident things will improve.
5. Give her space if she needs it
If she’s really mad, she may want a little alone time to cool off before talking it out. Respect that – but make sure to get back in touch once she’s had a chance to calm down so you can continue fixing things.
With patience and sincerity, you can get past a tiff. Remember – acknowledging fault, validating feelings, and continuous care are key to making up.