What’s It Really Like When a Guy Kisses You Without Permission?
In TV shows and movies, it’s common to see scenes where a guy kisses a girl suddenly. Sometimes the girl seems to enjoy it in the moment. However, how would most real girls feel if a guy suddenly kissed them in real life?
I asked some female friends to share their honest experiences with unexpected kisses. Here’s what they had to say:
Story 1: Disgusted and Betrayed
Gong, 24, met a guy through a mutual friend. They chatted casually a few times. One day, he invited her to see a movie. During the film, without warning he grabbed her head and started kissing her forcefully! Gong was furious but didn’t cause a scene. Afterward, she felt disgusted and betrayed. She blocked the guy on social media, never wanting to see him again.
Story 2: Flattered but Overwhelmed
Zhou, 26, had been dating a kind and thoughtful boyfriend for a while. One day as he walked her home, he suddenly pulled her close and gave her a kiss. Zhou really liked her boyfriend, so the unexpected kiss made her heart race – but it also left her dizzy and overwhelmed as a shy girl. While flattered by his actions, the kiss was also quite intense for her.
Story 3: Swooning Like in the Movies
He, 21, had a crush on a handsome classmate. One night as he walked her back to her dorm, he politely asked “Can I kiss you?” before sweeping her up in a romantic kiss straight out of the movies! As a hopeless romantic, He couldn’t help but swoon. She felt like the leading lady in her favorite drama.
Story 4: No Feelings, No Consent
Wu, 23, enjoyed chatting with a new friend but felt uncomfortable when he suddenly kissed her without asking. As someone who values relationships, Wu believed intimacy requires mutual care, trust and consent. Since the kiss didn’t stir any feelings and he failed to gain her permission first, their friendship couldn’t become something more.
In the end, whether a kiss is welcome or crosses the line depends on the individuals involved – and getting clear consent is always the respectful way to go. So the next time you’re tempted to surprise someone with a smooch, it’s best just to ask first!