Rebuild After Cheating? 4 Signs She Wants to Fix Your Marriage

Dealing with a Spouse’s Infidelity

My friend, your concerns about your wife’s sincerity are understandable. When a partner cheats, it’s natural to question their reasons for staying. Some unfaithful spouses only want to avoid divorce’s downsides, like social stigma or money issues. Others feel pressured to stay for the kids. So how can you truly know if your wife wants to rebuild your marriage?

For a cheating spouse to genuinely want to reconcile, they will show remorse. First, they’ll own up to their mistakes without excuses. Second, they’ll feel guilty for hurting you. Third, they won’t brush off your pain – they’ll acknowledge it. Fourth, they’ll willingly make amends through actions like signing papers to protect you financially.

Not all cheaters feel sorry, though. Some blame-shift or claim strange “reasons” for cheating. They don’t feel guilty because they’ve convinced themselves cheating was somehow your fault. But no issue excuses betraying your partner’s trust. If an unfaithful spouse refuses to admit fault or seems indifferent to your pain, fixing the marriage will be one-sided with all the effort coming from you.

From your story, it seems your wife took responsibility and showed signs of guilt like letting you access her phone. However, her occasional hints at divorce show lingering uncertainty. It’s clear your wounds still hurt – you’ve lost trust in her and get angry easily as a result. Her suggesting you find happiness was likely not to end things, but to ease her own guilt.

While it’s understandable to feel upset, constant anger will only drain her willingness to repent. She can only shoulder so much blame before her guilt runs out. Then she may give up even if sincerely trying to reconcile at first. When angry or sad, talk to her calmly about how you feel instead. This will pave the path to healing your relationship through openness and patience.

Repairing after betrayal takes time. Don’t be too hard on yourself or her if progress isn’t perfect. With effort from both sides and good counsel, you can choose whether your marriage is worth saving. But avoid rushing – give the wounds of distrust room to gradually close.

I hope opening up about your struggles has helped provide a new perspective. Feel free to message me privately if you need further advice or have additional concerns along your journey to find clarity and peace.

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