What To Do If the Girl You Like Says She’s Not Ready to Date
Have you ever thought a girl liked you back because you’d been talking and hanging out, only to have her say she’s not looking for a relationship? It can be confusing and really disappointing. But don’t panic – there are some things you can do without messing things up.
Why She Might Say No
Sometimes girls need more time before dating. She may have gotten hurt before and isn’t ready to put her heart out there again. Or she’s super busy with school and activities. Don’t automatically think it’s about you – it’s probably about what’s going on in her life.
It’s also possible she’s telling a “white lie” to let you down easy. Maybe she just wants to be friends. Or she has someone else she likes more. Girls don’t always say what they really mean because they don’t want to hurt feelings.
What Not To Do
Don’t start begging and pleading, like “What’s wrong with me?” or “I’ll change for you!” That’ll only make her more uncomfortable. And don’t get mad – it’s not fair to be mean just because she’s not ready.
Some guys keep pushing for a “second chance,” but that’s not respecting her decision. Give her space and don’t feel like you have a “right” to date her just because you get along.
What You Can Say Instead
Try keeping it light with something like “Don’t tell me you’re playing hard to get!” with a smile. This shows you’re not taking it too seriously and might make her laugh. But don’t count on a “no” turning into a “yes” either.
You can also say something like “No problem, just wanted to be honest about how I felt. Let me know if you change your mind!” Then change the subject and go back to just talking like friends. This leaves the door open while respecting her choice.
The best thing is staying friends without pressure or begging. Girls often like a guy more if he can just be cool with being pals. So don’t lose hope – keep being nice and see what happens as you both get older!