What is Emotional Intelligence?
Most people only have a vague idea of what emotional intelligence means. They associate it with things like being able to communicate well, making others feel comfortable, and having a good sense of humor. But there’s more to it than that.
Girls and Guys Don’t Always See Eye-to-Eye
Some girls see “high emotional intelligence” as the standard for how guys should act. But if a guy says something that puts her in a bad light, she may immediately label him as “low emotional intelligence.” Really, she’s just trying to switch things up so she comes out on top.
I remember chatting with one girl who said I had low emotional intelligence. But when I asked her to explain what it meant, she couldn’t give a clear answer. She seemed to be judging me based more on her feelings in the moment than any real definition.
What is Emotional Intelligence Really?
My brother once gave a talk where he said calling someone “high emotional intelligence” is misleading. Girls use it mostly to put guys down, and many don’t fully grasp what it entails. However, for insecure guys who hear this, it can lead them to doubt themselves and their self-worth, bringing on negative emotions that affect their mindset and behavior.
IQ measures how smart you are with facts and thinking. But EQ measures your emotional quotient – your ability to understand your own and others’ feelings, express emotions appropriately, and handle relationships in a healthy way. Someone with high EQ stays in control of their emotions and gets along well with others, while low EQ means being withdrawn, insecure, moody or short-tempered.
Knowing Yourself is Key
Your own worst enemy is yourself, not other people. Only by truly understanding who you are can you stay grounded when things go right, without getting a big head. A few of my students found more dating success lately. But as wins piled up, they started to act cocky – and we all know pride comes before a fall. Soon they were putting themselves down in front of girls and hitting roadblocks. It shows not recognizing your real abilities and how that impacts your confidence.
Facing setbacks is inevitable. How you handle them depends on accurately knowing your strengths, weaknesses, goals and values deep down. Staying true to yourself is what lets outside factors bounce off instead of knocking you down.
Take Control of Your Thoughts
Our actions start in the mind. Controlling your thoughts means being clear on your intentions and sticking to a plan, even when distractions like rejection try to throw you off course. Stay self-aware in conversations – notice if emotions start steering you away from your goals. Get thoughts back on track before behavior unravels. This improves emotional control and social skills.
Use Humor to Connect
Everyone appreciates a sense of humor. It creates relaxing vibes that draw people in. Even rejection feels less harsh when softened by a laugh. So find the funny side of life and share it! A good chuckle is a gift that keeps relationships light and fun.
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